Monthly Archive: April 2017

How’s That Bucket List Coming? An Update on My Travels

A while back, I wrote a post about my (greatly abbreviated) top ten country bucket list.  It was intended to be an exploration of my travel dreams, as well as a way to prioritize the places I most want to see (since I always have more travel dreams than time or money, making a list of my top travel goals makes sense, right?  I’m nothing if not organized.  Seriously, to an insane degree.  It’s rather scary.)

Recently I started thinking about this list and thought it would be fun to check back and see how I’m doing with my list of must-sees: how many have I made a reality, how many are trips-in-progress, and how many remain tantalizing future travel goals?  I love accountability, almost as much as I love to cross things off of lists, so here goes:

Melissa’s (Updated) Bucket List

 

View of a mist-covered mountain outside Nairobi

 

10) East Africa

Done and done (and soon to be done again!) Last year I visited Kenya and Uganda for a work trip, and I’ll be going back soon to explore more of Kenya (details pending).  I can’t wait to revisit this beautiful corner of the world and dig a bit deeper into what it has to offer.

9)  Brazil

Still haven’t been, but it remains high on my list, especially after friends have raved about it so much lately.  I would love to make this a winter (aka their summer) trip one of these years—maybe in combination with Chile, another place in South America I’m longing to see….

8)  Costa Rica

I seriously thought about taking a trip there this spring, but it didn’t quite pan out.  I have looked into doing a yoga retreat in Costa Rica and really want to make that happen one day (two bucket list goals achieved on one trip; I love it!)

7) India

I was literally just talking yesterday with a friend who had spent lots of time in India and loved it.  It remains high on my list, but I want to visit when I can do an extended tour through the country (both north and south, hopefully) and really get to delve into its magic.  This trip may not happen in the foreseeable future, but it will happen!

6) New Zealand

No details yet, but I’m making a determined effort to visit this magical land within the next year (gauntlet thrown down, now I must commit!)  Seriously, few places rank higher on my must-see-asap list than NZ, and I’m very hopeful a 2018 trip is in the cards.  Stay tuned!

5) Australia

Well, of course you can’t mention New Zealand without bringing up Australia, right?  Because they are SO close and both look SO AMAZING, I would really love to do a trip that combines both—if I manage to carve out a month or so in my schedule that would be possible, but otherwise, I’m afraid Oz may have to wait in line behind New Zealand (I guess I should officially bump it down behind NZ on my bucket list, right?)  But I’m determined to make it to Australia in the not-too-distant future as well.

4) Vietnam

SO. CLOSE. A few months ago I was booked to go back to Cambodia for a work trip, and I had added on a few vacation days in Hanoi to check out the city and visit Ha Long Bay. Unfortunately, the plug was pulled on my work trip, so Vietnam was postponed as well…for now. I still hope to make it back to Southeast Asia later this year or early next, though it’s not totally within control due to the work factors. But one thing is certain: when I return to Asia, I will get to Vietnam at last.

View of Soca river in Slovenia.

 

3) Slovenia

Check another one off the list—I finally made my decade-long travel dream come true and visited Slovenia last summer, and ever since I’ve been recommending that everyone drop whatever they’re doing and head over there.  What a beautiful and fascinating country!

2) Bali

Oh, Bali…how you tempt and vex me.  I was determined to finally make this dream trip a reality for my milestone birthday last December.  But, with all the traveling I’d done that year, and the relatively limited vacation time I had to work with, I decided it made more sense to postpone until I had a chance to do it properly, ie spend a few weeks in Indonesia and really get the opportunity to soak up Bali.   After all, a 20-hour plane ride is nothing to scoff at, and if you’re going all that way you need to make your time there worthwhile, right?  I don’t want to give Bali short shrift when I feel it deserves so much more, so I’m holding off until I can do it right (what a dangerous notion that is, really….)  Anyway, I will make Bali happen.  For sure.  One of these days.  Sigh….

`1) Russia/China/Mongolia and the Trans-Siberian Express

Big news here: I’M FINALLY GOING TO RUSSIA!!!

No, not the Trans-Siberian Express (that will happen eventually though!) but St. Petersburg.  My friend and I have booked a cruise through Scandinavia (covering Berlin, Tallin, Stockholm, Helsinki and Copenhagen), with a full two-day stop in St.  Petersburg.  So after two decades of dreaming about it, I’m finally going to Russia in August—just four months away!! Cue massive excitement, guidebook purchases, and earnest efforts to finally make it through Crime and Punishment this time….

 

So, that’s the status of my bucket list. Two countries checked off, three more in progress, and five dreams waiting to be fulfilled in the future….I guess that’s not terrible, right?  Slow and steady wins the race, and even if getting to every corner of the world my heart desires may take longer than I’d like, I have no doubt that in the end, it will be well worth it.

 

Do you have a bucket list? How are you doing at fulfilling your travel dreams?

Thoughts on People Who Don’t Want to Travel

In the almost two years I’ve been blogging (and, more to the point, reading travel blogs pretty voraciously), I’ve noticed that a lot of themes seem to come and go in the travel blogging community.  There’s almost a pattern of push-pull, in which an idea is trumpeted by many bloggers to the point where it becomes cliché, only for another blogger (or two, or three, and then more) to push back and say “well, actually, I don’t really agree with that…”  And the cycle goes round and round.

View of a mist-covered mountain outside Nairobi

 

For instance, when I first discovered that travel blogs were a thing, there were a TON of inspirational blog posts along the lines of “quit your job to travel and start living life to the fullest!”  Then, a year or so later, I noticed a pattern in the opposite direction: more and more bloggers of the non-digital-nomad variety writing pieces pushing back against the idea that the only way to live your best life was on a yoga retreat in Southeast Asia while drinking something out of a pineapple.  A number of blogs popped up stating that, in fact, you could have a normal life and travel too.  (For the record, I agree with this, though I certainly also see the appeal of dropping everything to move to Thailand and do yoga on a beach.  In fact, my whole life is kind of a balancing act between wanderlust and seeking stability as twin goals, so I understand both sides of this debate).

Lately, I’ve noticed another emerging trend among travel blogs.  The new idea being espoused in many corners is that, if people don’t want to travel, that’s perfectly okay and we shouldn’t make them feel bad about it, because after all, travel isn’t the be-all and end-all of life and there are many other ways to live a fulfilled existence, even without possessing a passport.

And while I see the point being made here, I have to raise my hand in the back of the room and say…I don’t completely agree with this “no-travel-is-totally-okay” philosophy either.

View of Lake Atitlan, Guatemala

 

Look, I’m all for live-and-let-live, for not judging others by the criteria of my own desires and goals.  I get that we’re all different and want different things out of life.  I know that there are plenty of people out there whose goals don’t include travel at all, and I know I should say that’s just fine.

But here’s the thing:  if you’ve never traveled, how do you know you don’t want to do it?   How can you definitively close yourself off to something you’ve never actually experienced?

Now, I understand that we humans don’t have to experience everything possible in order to know if we do or don’t want it as part of our lives.  For instance, I have friends who absolutely know, without a doubt, that they don’t want to have kids—and they don’t need to go out and give birth to one and try out raising it for a few months to confirm that to themselves.  They just know in their bones that parenthood isn’t the right choice for them, even without having tried it.  Fair enough.

But I do think travel is different.  For one thing, it doesn’t involve nearly the level of commitment that raising a child, buying a house, or changing careers does.  If you have sufficient funds and a week or two of vacation days per year, you can travel somewhere.  Maybe not a six-month backpacking trip through Europe, but you can hop on a plane, or a train, or a bus, and go somewhere new.  And I’d argue  you have little to lose by doing so, and a lot to gain.

Table Mountain, Cape Town, South Africa

 

Travel is a funny thing. I think, often, you do need to experience it to know for sure whether you want it in your life or not.   I mean, I’ve been consumed by wanderlust since I was a child staring at maps of the world and tagging along with my dad to the travel agent to collect brochures to plan all the trips I was going to take “someday.”  But I’ve known other people who never gave much thought to travel, but then decided to give it a chance and discovered they loved it.  And considering our society often doesn’t put much of a premium on travel (we’re just supposed to work, work, work and pride ourselves on our unused vacation days, apparently), I think it often helps to think outside our boxes a bit and give travel an opportunity to take hold of us and our imaginations.

I wrote last year about the importance of getting out of your comfort zone to see the world, and I still believe very strongly in the value of doing so.  To people who claim they don’t have any desire to travel, I have to wonder: leaving travel aside, how often do you get outside of your own comfortable space of the familiar?  Do you try new restaurants, read new books, talk with people who hold different viewpoints than you do?  If so, great; and travel will likely only enhance these experiences.  If not, well…maybe your lack of interest in travel is symptomatic of a lack of interest in trying new things in general.  And while I know it’s not my business to judge anyone’s life choices, I have to believe that ultimately, stepping outside the box we’re accustomed to—through travel, or any other means—can only benefit us.

The Louvre in Paris

 

So, I challenge everyone out there who has never really thought they wanted to travel: give it a shot.  Just try it out.  Whether it’s a weekend away a few towns over or a trip to China, use travel as a means to explore the world around you and see if it’s something that brings you joy, and maybe expands your worldview and appreciation for this glorious planet we’re fortunate enough to call home.  You may be pleasantly surprised by how rewarding you find exploring the world in this way.  And if not—well, at least you tried.  You got out there and took a chance and hopefully learned something about yourself, and that’s a great thing.

There’s no shame in not being a wanderlust-filled globetrotter. Not everyone will want or need a passport filled with stamps from around the world.  But I truly think that, all other things being equal, travel is one of those things we owe it to ourselves to try out, at least once in our lives…just to see where the road may take us.

 

What are your thoughts on this? Is travel something everyone should try if they can, or is it fine to eschew it if you don’t think it’s for you?