Thoughts on People Who Don’t Want to Travel

In the almost two years I’ve been blogging (and, more to the point, reading travel blogs pretty voraciously), I’ve noticed that a lot of themes seem to come and go in the travel blogging community.  There’s almost a pattern of push-pull, in which an idea is trumpeted by many bloggers to the point where it becomes cliché, only for another blogger (or two, or three, and then more) to push back and say “well, actually, I don’t really agree with that…”  And the cycle goes round and round.

 

For instance, when I first discovered that travel blogs were a thing, there were a TON of inspirational blog posts along the lines of “quit your job to travel and start living life to the fullest!”  Then, a year or so later, I noticed a pattern in the opposite direction: more and more bloggers of the non-digital-nomad variety writing pieces pushing back against the idea that the only way to live your best life was on a yoga retreat in Southeast Asia while drinking something out of a pineapple.  A number of blogs popped up stating that, in fact, you could have a normal life and travel too.  (For the record, I agree with this, though I certainly also see the appeal of dropping everything to move to Thailand and do yoga on a beach.  In fact, my whole life is kind of a balancing act between wanderlust and seeking stability as twin goals, so I understand both sides of this debate).

Lately, I’ve noticed another emerging trend among travel blogs.  The new idea being espoused in many corners is that, if people don’t want to travel, that’s perfectly okay and we shouldn’t make them feel bad about it, because after all, travel isn’t the be-all and end-all of life and there are many other ways to live a fulfilled existence, even without possessing a passport.

And while I see the point being made here, I have to raise my hand in the back of the room and say…I don’t completely agree with this “no-travel-is-totally-okay” philosophy either.

 

Look, I’m all for live-and-let-live, for not judging others by the criteria of my own desires and goals.  I get that we’re all different and want different things out of life.  I know that there are plenty of people out there whose goals don’t include travel at all, and I know I should say that’s just fine.

But here’s the thing:  if you’ve never traveled, how do you know you don’t want to do it?   How can you definitively close yourself off to something you’ve never actually experienced?

Now, I understand that we humans don’t have to experience everything possible in order to know if we do or don’t want it as part of our lives.  For instance, I have friends who absolutely know, without a doubt, that they don’t want to have kids—and they don’t need to go out and give birth to one and try out raising it for a few months to confirm that to themselves.  They just know in their bones that parenthood isn’t the right choice for them, even without having tried it.  Fair enough.

But I do think travel is different.  For one thing, it doesn’t involve nearly the level of commitment that raising a child, buying a house, or changing careers does.  If you have sufficient funds and a week or two of vacation days per year, you can travel somewhere.  Maybe not a six-month backpacking trip through Europe, but you can hop on a plane, or a train, or a bus, and go somewhere new.  And I’d argue  you have little to lose by doing so, and a lot to gain.

 

Travel is a funny thing. I think, often, you do need to experience it to know for sure whether you want it in your life or not.   I mean, I’ve been consumed by wanderlust since I was a child staring at maps of the world and tagging along with my dad to the travel agent to collect brochures to plan all the trips I was going to take “someday.”  But I’ve known other people who never gave much thought to travel, but then decided to give it a chance and discovered they loved it.  And considering our society often doesn’t put much of a premium on travel (we’re just supposed to work, work, work and pride ourselves on our unused vacation days, apparently), I think it often helps to think outside our boxes a bit and give travel an opportunity to take hold of us and our imaginations.

I wrote last year about the importance of getting out of your comfort zone to see the world, and I still believe very strongly in the value of doing so.  To people who claim they don’t have any desire to travel, I have to wonder: leaving travel aside, how often do you get outside of your own comfortable space of the familiar?  Do you try new restaurants, read new books, talk with people who hold different viewpoints than you do?  If so, great; and travel will likely only enhance these experiences.  If not, well…maybe your lack of interest in travel is symptomatic of a lack of interest in trying new things in general.  And while I know it’s not my business to judge anyone’s life choices, I have to believe that ultimately, stepping outside the box we’re accustomed to—through travel, or any other means—can only benefit us.

 

So, I challenge everyone out there who has never really thought they wanted to travel: give it a shot.  Just try it out.  Whether it’s a weekend away a few towns over or a trip to China, use travel as a means to explore the world around you and see if it’s something that brings you joy, and maybe expands your worldview and appreciation for this glorious planet we’re fortunate enough to call home.  You may be pleasantly surprised by how rewarding you find exploring the world in this way.  And if not—well, at least you tried.  You got out there and took a chance and hopefully learned something about yourself, and that’s a great thing.

There’s no shame in not being a wanderlust-filled globetrotter. Not everyone will want or need a passport filled with stamps from around the world.  But I truly think that, all other things being equal, travel is one of those things we owe it to ourselves to try out, at least once in our lives…just to see where the road may take us.

 

What are your thoughts on this? Is travel something everyone should try if they can, or is it fine to eschew it if you don’t think it’s for you?